Ladies, Where’s the Lingerie Love? Honestly, I’ve Lost Mine.

Yes, I feel a little lazy admitting this to you fab Smitten readers but it’s true, I’ve lost all motivation to slip into my sexy lingerie. I’ve had this one sheer number shoved in my “sexy bin” for at least four months now (tags still on) and there are no signs of it making an appearance soon (sorry, J). During our honeymoon phase, J was getting action all the time and I usually had on some sort of skimpy/sexy/cute lingerie. Now that we’re living together it just seems like So. Much. Work. I had to ask some of my besties to make sure I wasn’t a horrible girlfriend see how often they really wore lingerie (and, yes, how I stacked up). The results made me feel much better:

“When we first starting dating I always bought lingerie but every time I wore it I felt a little silly. I just do not embrace sexy in any way. [Ed note: She so does!] I always thought to myself, ‘OK let me gather up this little number and carry it in a ball to the bathroom without him noticing (if we were on vacation) and I’ll come out wearing it.’ But then I would put it on in the bathroom and be like now what? Do I just walk out there and act like everything is normal? How awkward! Am I supposed to stick my leg out behind the wall? However the romance was new and I knew he’d love it regardless of how silly I felt. Now we’ve been dating for 4 years and I’d rather buy myself a new pair of shoes than spend $80 on something that is only staying on for 3.2 minutes and I feel silly in. Let alone if I’m not in shape. I am rarely up for making a huge production out of it unless its a special occasion. Wow aren’t I a real catch?”—N, 24

“My go-to combo is a pink and black lace bra with black panties. Unfortunately, I don’t wear lingerie as much as I would like. I always get caught in my nude granny bra (because it goes with all of my clothes and is the best ever!) and a pair of flowered boyshorts! So embarrassing! Although, if a man wants to wear something equivalent to a woman in lingerie, they should buy or borrow a fireman’s uniform or marines uniform. Who doesn’t love a man in uniform! Haha”—M, 23

“Are you NUTS?! Lingerie—HA—girl, he’s lucky if my bra matches my underwear. Granted, they’re always cute, but whoa… lingerie. Umm, I’m either clothed around my guy or just naked, there is no in between. Soooo… my sexy lingerie is the goods that God gave me. NAKED!”—A, 31

As for me? I am usually in cheekies or a thong (depending on my outfit) and a black or nude version of the exact same Victoria’s Secret bra. When I want to amp it up for J, I throw in a little lace. I have some outfits and thigh highs (his fave) at home but I am not sticking my sweaty self into those when it’s 100 degrees outside! Maybe in the fall… maybe not. It’s not that I don’t want to do something special for my man, it just feels like this huge extra effort. I want to have sex. With him. Isn’t that enough?

What about you guys? How often do you wear lingerie? Are you single and hooking up or coupled up? Why does lingerie feel like an “easier said than done” type of thing? Should us girls unite and either A) start a no-lingerie liberation or B) start making the guys in our lives buy the stuff so we can save some dough (it gets pricey!)? I always say if J picked it out and bought it for me I’d be more up for getting down. Tell me everything! And, at the very least if you’re a lacy lovah, please tell me that you sometimes overeat and feel too mushy to put on anything sexy!

More on OK, fine, lingerie:
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