Bride Inspiration: The dos and don’ts of bridal accessories

When it comes to your big day, even the smallest of details matter. Accessories can make or break your overall wedding look but, when chosen well, they can take your wedding styling to a whole other level.

Here are some things to do and avoid when choosing your wedding acessories.

Dos

Tie everything into your style

Be sure that all your accessories, be it your headband or your garter, reflect a little bit of you and your personality. It’s YOUR big day and, at the very least, your outfit and accessories should show the world who you are, not what someone else wants you to be or what other people think a bride should look like. If, for example, you’re a modern girl who likes something a little bit offbeat, standard pearl earrings and a tiara probably aren’t your thing. Conversely, if you’re a traditional girl, don’t be afraid to choose the most princessy of tiaras or most traditional of updos. Your accessories are there to accessorise YOU!

Use colour to enhance your overall look

White may be the traditional wedding colour and there’s nothing wrong with tradition, but you’d be amazed at how much personality even the smallest pops of colour can add to an all-white outfit. Add colour to your outfit by way of jewelry, belts, sashes, boleros, hair bands and, of course, shoes.

Look like you’re a princess (because you are)

Let’s face it, unless you’re born with blue blood, most of us don’t get too many opportunities to be and dress like a princess. But on your wedding day, at least, you should absolutely feel like a princess and what princess doesn’t have her very own tiara? There aren’t too many times in life when you can get away with wearing a tiara, so, as long as you’re comfortable with the concept, get yourself a shimmering, glimmering tiara and wear it like you’re walking down the aisle at Westminster Abbey! If tiara’s aren’t your thing, a fabulously blingy necklace will suffice, something that is stunning, a real statement piece that you probably couldn’t pull off at any other event.

Remember the small details

Don’t forget about the accessories that may not be seen, every element will add to how fabulous and comfortable you feel on your big day. This goes for accessories such as your lingerie, the perfume you wear and even whether or not you decide to carry a small purse with you on the day so that you have items such as make-up or a mobile phone immediately at hand. It all counts, so put thought into every accessory, not just the big, obvious ones.

Work around your wedding dress

Your wedding dress will be the focus of your overall look on your big day, and it’s the one thing everything else you wear should emphasize. Don’t think about any other accessories until you’ve settled on your dress. That way, you can choose the accessories that will best highlight your beautiful gown.

Don’ts

Don’t leave things until the last minute

By not planning ahead, you could find yourself in a pickle in the precious weeks and days before the wedding. The perfect earrings may be out of stock and take weeks to arrive; you may hate your haircut and wish desperately that you had a month or two more for it to grow out or, perhaps, you bought your shoes just a few days before the wedding and won’t be able to break them in in time for them to be worn comfortably on your wedding day. The potential perils of leaving anything wedding related, not just accessory related, until the last minute are too great to risk on one of the most important days of your life.

Don’t forget about your feet and nails

Modern wedding photography is a huge departure from shoots of the past and the chances of your feet and nails appearing front and centre are very high. After all, how many times have you seen wedding photos like those above – or a close up of the bride’s hand with her shiny new ring? So, if there’s a chance that your photographer might be zooming in on your extremities, be sure to have them buffed and polished as best you can!

Don’t forget about your flowers

When it comes to your bouquet, remember that you have to hold it for a considerable length of time. A large bouquet of flowers looks lovely on a table, but try carrying it around for a few hours and see how your arms feel. So, be sure to consider how practical your dream bouquet is, in addition to how lovely it looks.

Don’t over-accessorise

Just because you can wear earrings, headpiece, rings, bolero , an anklet, a belt doesn’t mean you should. Of course, depending on your choice of items and your styling, this combo may work beautifully, but less is usually more, so, if you do wish your look to have an immediate (and good) impact, perhaps, opt for one or two statement pieces for maximum impact.

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A thing for thong

THOSE WHO have watched the iconic American TV show Friends will immediately know what we’re talking about.

In a particular episode, Phoebe (played by Lisa Kudrow) convinces Joey (played by Matt LeBlanc) that men who wear ladies’ undergarments are not weird or gay, eventually making him try out a pair and see it for himself. It was a laugh riot, no doubt, but coming back to real life, the scene may not be too far-fetched, as several men have taken a fancy to these fashionable and alluring inner garments that were earlier strictly a domain of the ladies.

Enter male lingerie. Indian men are challenging some of the most entrenched gender stereotypes—assumptions that are rooted in rigid, age-old gender roles that dictate what men and women should wear, both in public and private—by buying these sweet nothings. From lacy thongs and G-strings to briefs and boyshorts, they are doing it all to spice up their lives.

Helping these male lingerie connoisseurs are websites and stores that are marketing these trendy undergarments.

Brent Krause, owner and lead designer for Homme Mystere, a male lingerie company operating out of Queensland in Australia, thought it would be a whacky idea to come up with intimate wear for men, taking the cue from female lingerie. “Women’s underwear in stores has always been bright and colourful. The fabrics are lightweight, stretchy, incredibly soft to touch. I wondered what it would be like to have men’s underwear made with the same fabrics and if it would be as comfortable as it felt to touch,” he explains.

Krause’s buyers include several Indian men, too, although all of them are discreet in their transactions.

Five years ago, Homme Mystere was perhaps the only store around, but now there are some other ventures as well that are trying to lure men with laces. Online stores like Laceandme, Teddygirl.com, Spicylingerie.com and Thatspersonal.com are selling kinky intimates for ‘angels in hot panties’. Animal-printed G-strings studded with snake heads and thongs with hints of pink are most popular.

But who are the men flocking to these online stores? “Feedback suggests that our client base is varied. Many are married and middle-aged, those who like to have a bit of fun. Professionals, techies, those in the armed forces—they are all our clients. There are women, too, buying for their partners,” says Samir Saraiya, CEO of ThatsPersonal.com, a premium adult online store headquartered in Bengaluru.

But not everyone is a runaway fan though. “The idea sounds pretty experimental and is good for stuff like BDSM (bondage, discipline, sadism and masochism) and role-play. But professionally, I wouldn’t be comfortable walking the ramp wearing lingerie,” says Mumbai-based model Milind Soman.

New Delhi-based financial analyst Sanket Kumawat, though, begs to differ. He says he doesn’t mind them as long as they are comfortable. “What’s the harm? As long as they are comfortable, I honestly don’t have any problems. Plus, it’s innerwear, so why bother about who is going to think what?”

Designer Wendell Rodricks thinks the trend is bizarre. “The latest Gucci show at the Milan Fashion Week was in the news just because it questioned such stereotypes. But to call the product ‘male lingerie’ is rather bizarre. Let’s not take away from the feminine domain of lace and silk as underwear. I, for one, would not buy it.”

And, as per Krause, it’s not all gay men and cross-dressers either. “Apparently, there are many straight men out there who like to try out something new and thrilling. It’s actually none of our business. There’s no reason why a gay man would like lingerie more than a straight guy,” says Krause.

Talking about the genesis of his website, Krause says that after making a few samples of briefs, boyshorts and thongs, he checked if other guys liked the idea too. So, along with his wife, he started selling a few garments online. As the business grew, they received more and more enquiries from men, and they were soon pushing the brief, so to speak, talking about the possibility of making matching bras to those briefs. Krause discussed the idea with his seamstress and went ahead and created matching bras and other types of lingerie, ranging from$20 to $40, for men.

But why would one wear it? As per Krause, for men, it’s the nerve-racking taboo equivalent to a woman wearing crotchless panties to church. You sit there and wonder, “Nobody knows what’s going on under these finely ironed pants. What a frilly thrill!”

Krause wants to elevate the underwear in the daily level of priorities. “Choosing a department store brand of underwear each morning is a no-brainer. Choosing a style of Homme Mystere each morning is a little more fun,” he says. “A busy day with meetings? Let’s go for pinstripes. Feeling a bit toey? Let’s try frill thongs. Life’s too short for plain underwear,” he adds.

When some online companies sought to find out what the common man thought about the idea, a new aspect about Indian society was witnessed. As opposed to the common notion that people from metro cities would be more open and accepting, a majority of them from cities like Mumbai, Delhi and Bengaluru outrightly rejected the idea or found it too ‘gay’. On the other hand, people from smaller cities like Bhopal, Jammu, Jaipur and Nashik seemed more interested and open about it. So much for ‘small-town mentality’!

But what about women? What do they have to say about men in bras? “I think it’s ridiculous,” says Sonal Kalani, a 26-year-old entrepreneur based in Mumbai. “Role-playing and colours like red and pink are acceptable, but not panties and bras. I’d prefer my man to be a man, not some guy whose choice in innerwear matches mine,” she says.

Like her, a large section of women can’t take the idea of feminine underwear for their partners.

However, there are a few who think it’s admirable if a man does it. “Women do so much to please their partners. So if a man does something like this, I feel it will be really sweet. But wearing it outside the bedroom would be completely his personal choice,” says 25-year-old Ujala Choudhary, a media professional based in Jammu.

It’s just a matter of time before the masses become more acceptable. But who knows, you may just spot some fancy laces and satins, custom-designed for men, at the neighbourhood departmental store next time you visit.

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