Festival Sex: Top Tips On How To Get Frisky In A Tent

If the legendary Woodstock festival is anything to go by – with its mix of sex, drugs, rock n’ roll and limited showers – festivals are supposed to be hedonistic affairs, where people truly let their hair down.

So why is it that whenever someone broaches the idea of having sex at festivals – God forbid – we return to British prudishness and turn up our noses?

In truth, many more people are ‘at it’ than would let on. (Trust me, I’ve heard them.)

“Festivals create the perfect atmosphere for sex,” says Susan Quilliam, Durex Sex and Relationship Spokesperson. “The anonymity in a crowd allows people to let go, the energy means passions can rise and snuggling up in a tent can lead to all sorts of things.”

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So why is having sex at festival so taboo?

Alix Fox, Durex Real Feel Sexpert, says that many fear for festival goers clarity of judgement.

“At festivals indulge in booze, powders and potions, and are less in control. Many fear intoxication may lead to bad decisions about sex or undignified behaviour,” she says.

That said, when practised with caution, it can be bloody good fun. So here are some top tips for having sex at a festival…

Keep it safe…

If you’re going to get intimate with a stranger you should wear protection – surely this goes without saying. But even if you’re in a relationship using condoms at festivals is a great way to reduce post-sex mess.

“No-one wants to spend the night laying inside a squelchy sleeping bag or trying to avoid the wet patch on the roll mat after an intense in-tent seduction session,” says Alix.

Condom packets can also be easily damaged, she adds, so be careful to inspect them before you use them.

“If you do have unprotected sex then get emergency contraception from the onsite medical team,” says Susan. “They will also be able to give you more general sexual health advice.”

Keep it clean…

With limited access to showers (you dirty lot) hygiene is something to keep in mind. Especially if you’ve only just met your lover, God knows the last time they had a wash.

“Cleansing before and after sexual contact is a must if you don’t want to risk infection, so use water and tissues liberally, or wet wipes (fragrance-free ones to avoid allergies),” says Susan.

Make it enjoyable…

“Festival sex could well be speedy sex – so make sure you’re choosing easy-to-access clothes,” says Susan.

“Limited space in tents means that vigorous, acrobatic, sexy-flexy bend-me-like-a-pretzel lovemaking probably won’t be on the agenda,” adds Alix.

Both Alix and Susan recommend simple missionary or ‘spooning’ sex – “Both lie on your sides and allow him to enter you from behind,” says Susan.

How not to get caught…

Part of the thrill may be the risk of getting caught, but for most being caught red-handed in the act is enough to turn them off.

“The best approach is to keep the location as private as possible – in your tent or van,” says Susan

“When it comes to sex toys, they’re a good idea only if they’re pretty noise-free – otherwise you could find that when the music dies everyone can hear your vibrator buzz.”

Durex offer a whole range of sex toys to maximise pleasure, such as Play Delight and Play Vibrations See here for their full range.

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• Talk About Sex

  As time passes in a relationship, it’s easy to get into a rut and just go through the motions, rather than express what you really want (and need) in bed. Sex therapist a href=”http://www.hwhpr.com/williamslucenablog/wordpress/?page_id=2″Williams Lucena/a, FMD, says it’s time to break this cycle with some frank talk. “Ask each other, ‘What do I need in bed from you?’” he suggests. “Get back to the communication you used to have.”

• Eat Healthy

  This doesn’t sound like a sex tip, but treating your body right with good nutrition helps the whole body, including your libido, says a href=”http://www.turnonyourinnerlight.com/page10.html”Debbie Mandel/a, a stress management expert and author of Addicted to Stress. “Eat healthy foods to reduce cholesterol and keep your cardiovascular system humming,” she adds. “This will ensure that circulation is at peak performance for the ‘southern hemisphere.’”

• Pick Up Some Chores

  Want to put your partner in the mood for better sex? “Help around the house,” says Mandel. “The best foreplay happens outside the bedroom. By helping with chores and errands, you make them feel valued.”

• Exercise

  Few things will get you ready to satisfy women quite like getting in regular exercise each day, says Matthew N. Simmons, MD, PhD, of the a href=”http://my.clevelandclinic.org/urology/default.aspx”Glickman Urological and Kidney Institute in Cleveland/a. “Even as little as 15 minutes of exercise daily will improve self-esteem, self-image, and libido,” he says. “Exercise makes the physical aspects of sex more enjoyable. Furthermore, making exercise a habit promotes cardiovascular health, which is necessary for normal a href=”http://www.everydayhealth.com/mens-health/erectile-dysfunction.aspx”erectile function/a.”

• But Don’t Over Do It

  But don’t overdo it. Too much exercise can have the opposite effect, says Pete McCall, MS, an exercise physiologist with the a href=”http://www.acefitness.org/”American Council on Exercise/a. “Being in an overtraining state produces general feelings of fatigue and low energy and can disrupt sleep patterns and change mood,” he says. “This is hardly a good combination for wooing a romantic partner.”

• In Fact, Work Out Together

  If exercise is good, then exercising with your lover is an even better sex tip, says Mandel. “Working out together ensures that both libidos and endorphins will be up,” she says. “Since you’re both already sweating, take it to the next level. Stretching together is also a good idea.”

• Abstain A Bit

  Abstinence as a sex tip? Believe it or not, it’s a surefire way to improve sex and make your next encounter with your lover even more exciting. “Practice abstinence for a couple of days, a weekend, or a week,” says Mandel. “Abstinence does make the heart grow fonder and makes you lust after forbidden fruit.”

• Plan For Sex

  It may not sound that romantic, but Dr. Simmons says it’s a great way to improve your sex life and satisfy women. Construct a plan for having sex, he suggests: “Setting aside time or arranging opportunities for sex is very important, especially for busy couples or those with children. Don’t let the frequency of sex dwindle due to fatigue or the inability to find the ‘right time.’”

• Send Your Partner A Text

  Make use of technology. Want to keep her in the mood for sex later that night while you’re stuck at the office? Use your cell phone or e-mail. “Send her sexy messages throughout the day,” advises Mandel.

• Compliment Her

  Want a foolproof way to drive her wild and ensure better sex? “Find a particular feature, and tell her that she is the best in this class,” says Mandel.

• Focus On Relaxation

  Men like to get excited for better sex, but women are more likely to get in the mood through relaxation. “Wash her hair in the shower or massage her scalp to relax her,” says Debbie Mandel, a stress management expert and author of Addicted to Stress. “A woman needs to be relaxed before she is ready to receive.”

• Foreplay

  Regardless of how you get revved up for better sex, Matthew N. Simmons, MD, PhD, of the Glickman Urological and Kidney Institute in Cleveland, suggests not skimping on the foreplay — no matter how long you have been together as a couple. “Foreplay contributes greatly to stronger orgasms and improved sex,” he says. “Gearing up your autonomic nervous system will increase sensitivity, excitement, and strength of orgasm. Your patience and attentiveness will pay dividends.”

• Think Like Your Partner

  Natalie Bencivenga, co-founder, editor, and writer of a href=”http://twodaymag.com/”twodaymag.com/a, advises thinking like a woman. “To think like a woman in bed, you don’t have to be one,” she says. “Give attention to some of her most neglected areas, like her neck, her feet, her inner thighs. Tease her mercilessly. Make her want it. You will be surprised what a build-up will bring!”

• Let Them Take The Lead

  Men so often take the lead in bed. Sometimes, the key to better sex is letting her be in charge. “Don’t be afraid to let your mate lead,” says Joyce Morley, EdD, a licensed counsellor in Decatur, Ga. “Allow your mate to initiate sexual pleasure on occasions, as well as taking the top position.”

• Don’t Overlook Lubricant

  According to Bencivenga, there’s no shame in using lubricant to satisfy women. “Many guys think that since women get wet, if we aren’t wet, then we aren’t into it,” she says. “That’s not true. Sometimes, whether it’s stress, certain times of the month, or fatigue, women can have a hard time getting physically aroused even when they are mentally in the game. Lubricant in the bedside drawer is your new best friend.”

• Switch It Up

  If you’re experiencing a case of the “same-old, same-old,” working on adding a little variety is the key to better sex, says Simmons. “Spice things up by planning and discussing variations on your usual sexual habits,” he explains. “Lingerie, toys, new positions, and other creative additions can enhance intimacy and orgasm.”

• Change Locations

  Another way to add variety and improve sex life, suggests Mandel, is to try some place new. “Do it in different places to experience a different energy,” she says. “Take it outdoors if you are overwhelmed with technology and want to get back your natural rhythm.”

• Just Don’t Have Sex, Make Love

  Does it feel lately like it’s just sex? “Try making love,” advises Dr. Morley. “You make love with that special someone, but you have sex with anybody.”

• Use Touch Even Without Sex

  Even when you’re not having sex, you can still improve your sex life by using touch in an intimate, but not sexual, way. “Touching is important, but doesn’t always mean sex,” says Morley. “It is important to be intimate with your mate by touching her with love and affection on a daily basis. Kiss daily, and don’t be afraid to allow her to reciprocate.”

• Take Care Of Your Penis

  “Take good care of your penis,” says Dr. Simmons. “Penile injury is usually sustained when your partner is on top or when the penis buckles from missed penetration. If things are getting out of hand, ask your partner to ease up. If you suspect a penile fracture due to a perceived ‘pop’ followed by bruising, see a urologist immediately.”

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