To friend or not to friend: Networking with an ex on Facebook
August 4, 2011 by admin
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In life, you have friends and then you have Facebook “friends.” But how many of you are willing to connect with a long-lost lover when you’re already in a committed relationship?
“I think in general, you have to be careful about Facebook because of it’s newness,” said Dr. Scott Bea, a clinical psychologist at Cleveland Clinic. “People really don’t know how to handle it. They may spend too much time on Facebook. They may be reconnecting with old flames on Facebook. So, for some people it may be a threat, not that these things couldn’t happen otherwise.”
So how do you avoid an angry confrontation with your current significant other? Dr. Bea says transparency may work best. One option is to allow your spouse to have access to your account–it shows that there are no secrets in your relationship.
And if you accept an ex-fling as a friend, be sure to tell your spouse why and being really candid. When it comes to reconnecting, honesty is the best policy in Dr. Bea’s book.
“If you’re concerned about your spouse being on Facebook all of the time, you might try and have a discussion about that,” he said. “I don’t think you want to have to guard the castle too strongly or feel that it is a particular threat, unless you see somebody that is developing an addictive relationship, spending too much time on it. Again, being open and honest about it these possibilities I think helps.”
Despite new forms of communication online, it all comes down to trust and commitment in the end.
Would you let your significant other have access to your Facebook account to prove you have nothing to hide? Are you currently connected with an ex on Facebook? What is the experience like? Let us know below and on our WNWO fan page.
